You're on the phone with your friend telling her about how you haven't heard from your cousin Jack in two years and then Jack sends you a text. Coincidence or synchronicity?
You're watching a movie where someone knocks on the door and suddenly there's a knock at your door. Coincidence or synchronicity?
You start humming your favorite 90s pop song that you haven't heard in a few years and it begins to play on the radio in your car. You get out of the car and walk into Starbucks and it begins playing in there too. You leave Starbucks, and as you arrive at the mall to shop, the song is magically playing in the store as well. Coincidence or synchronicity?
P.S. If you don't submit to the last one you're just being contrary, that's like somebody punching you in the face with a synchronicity glove. C'mon.
Synchroncity was first discussed by Swiss psychologist and psychiatrist Carl Jung. Jung stated that synchronicities are essentially meaningful events (or symbolism) that are apparently causally unrelated or unlikely to occur by chance.
I like to think of synchronicities as winks from the universe. A friendly reminder that you're on the right path and haven't strayed too far from exactly what you should be doing. Of course what we should be doing could seem incredibly mundane (like watching a movie, talking on the phone or buying Starbucks).
Synchroncities occur as a reminder to stop and appreciate where you are at any given moment, and they seem to be the Universe's way of giving you a little pat on the back and saying, "heeey, you're doing alright kiddo, keep on keepin' on." Apparently the universe talks like Fonzi?
I'm amazed at how many synchronicities fly by people on a daily basis unnoticed. I've been talking to a friend or family member and they will say a phrase and the exact phrase will be repeated on the television playing in the background. I'm always amused by it, but sometimes the other person is completely unaware. Maybe that means it was meant for me and not them....
That's the thing about synchronicities...they're there all the time, but they are useless if they go unnoticed. In fact, I'm not even sure you could call it a synchronicity without the awareness of its presence.
Synchronicities requires us to be in touch with our intuitive self. If we are too rationally-minded, then nothing will be meaningful and all synchronous events will be interpreted as chance or coincidence (I've seen "rationally-minded" people explain away the most obvious and blaring synchronicities to the point of seeming dense and childish).
If we're too intuitively focused, we may begin to be overwhelmed with "meaningful" events and unable to function in our daily lives. If you can't write the check for your rent because the pen is so meaningful to you just because you saw a pen earlier on the ground, its probably time to pull back.
So, as with everything, we have to cultivate balance.
Some synchronicities are fun, conversational pieces, such as the ever popular thinking about someone and having them call a few moments later.
Some synchronicities are merely there to remind you that even if you think you know what's going on, there's always a little mystery out there working behind the scenes.
Once we begin to open to the synchronous, we will start to notice those events more, and they may become more and more extreme. Consider it a reward for being more aware.
A friend of ours, since paying more attention to her intuitive wisdom, has a multitude of synchronicities on a veritable daily basis. She used to call and tell us about all of them, but their frequency became so great she had to start writing them down in order to keep track of them. Now when she tells us about them we all just laugh and shake our heads; she's a synchronicity magnet, and she loves it.
Writing down synchronous events is a wonderful meditation because it allows you to reflect on the inter-connectivity of all things, and it can be a comforting reminder of a universal design in times where things seem chaotic and haphazard. When you feel thrown about by the cold winds of chance, pull out that journal and reflect on those moments when things coalesced in ways you couldn't have imagined.
When we stop noticing them, it may not necessarily be that you're on the "wrong track", although that is one interpretation, but it could be a sign that you're just not as conscious as you may have been when they were occurring. I'm not suggesting that simply by being aware you'll become like our friend and have them multiple times a day, but I do believe that without conscious awareness and presence in your life, when they do happen you'll miss them. It's like looking away when someone winks at you after they tell you something. You may get the basic meaning of the statement, but ultimately you miss the tone and deeper meaning behind the words. The significance of the wink is lost on you. Don't be that guy.
So the more conscious you are, the likelier synchronicity will come to pay you a visit. Additionally the more you listen to your intuitive insights, the more you'll be tuned in to the synchronicities that are happening all the time. It's like when you start noticing playing cards on the ground, or spiral shapes in nature...you see them EVERYWHERE.
As an aside: I was thinking how it would be nice if I had a synchroncity while writing this post. Then I thought, 'nah...that's too obvious.' Then Aaron came and told me something that was indeed, a synchronicity. So, it was a synchronicity to have a synchronicity while writing about synchronicity, particularly when I thought it was too obvious to have a synchronicity. ;-)