We've all interacted with someone with whom after you walk away you feel like you had the life drained right out you. Sometimes you can't even figure out what happened, you just feel different (and often not in a good way).
Vampires do exist, and they subsist on our energy systems (siphoning our time, emotions and mental energy). Actually we all siphon energy from people for a variety of reasons. Sometimes it's because we need someone else's energy to get through the day, so we take little bits here and there, and sometimes because it's become a habitual pattern of interpersonal relating that can become damaging in our relationships if we don't learn how to manage our own energetic requirements.
I've decided, in order to be both tongue and cheek and in preparation for the season six premiere of True Blood (yeah...I watch it) to relate them to the show's primary characters. Granted, for you True Blood purists all of my correlations are not "vampires" per se but you'll get the idea.
As you read try and figure out which style you relate to. You may not be a raging energy sucker, but you may be a master of the little drink...We all do it, at least we should be aware right?
The Jessica (The Loose Cannon)
This person has a propensity for drama. It seems everywhere they go they end up in some kind of situation that could be written into a Lifetime movie of the week. When interacting with them you may experience the subtle feeling of being on a roller coaster, which at first may be fun, but after a while can get annoying. They tend to enjoy emotional see-saws and usually take any opportunity to boast about their exciting adventures. They may even cajole you into joining them on one of their escapades. They tend to be unreliable, flaky and emotionally labile or superficial. You leave them feeling like a little bit embarrassed at your own participation in their ridiculousness, boring that you opted out of their craziness or you could feel abandoned when they abruptly move on to the next adventure.
The Bill (The Self-Righteous Criticizer)
Bills likes to suck energy through their judgements and proclamations about what you should and shouldn't be doing. They often have an air of superiority that can simultaneously wise and condescending. Some Bills are more quiet; their energetic siphoning happening through a pursed lip or a judgmentally raised eyebrow as they listen to you. Others may swoop in openly criticize you, tell you everything you're doing wrong and then proceed to tell you directly or indirectly that their way is the right way. Their superpower is criticism, and they may find subtle says to criticize you at every turn. You often leave feeling like you can't do anything right and may feel inadequate, immature or inappropriate.
The Eric (The Con-Artist)
Erics sucks your energy in a dangerously covert way. They tend to take what they want without giving a thought about what your preference may be. In conversation they may look at you like a viper stalking their prey; waiting to find your vulnerability, then the swoop in with a verbal zinger that leaves you feeling stunned. They thrive on power plays. Chances are you can't discern their motivation, but you're pretty sure it's in their own best interest. You may not even realize they've taken your energy. Through subtle manipulation superpowers you find yourself carrying out their whims even when it's not in your best interest. You leave feeling disempowered, bamboozled and naive after you realize what a chump you were.
The Tara (The Sulky Sourpuss)
Taras gets their energy by dumping their mess in your lap. They spend most of their interactions with others talking about their "sucky life". Of course their complaining may be subtle but after a while you realize that most conversation centers on what is wrong. Complaining, lamenting, blaming and crying are their main superpowers. You may spend a good deal of time offering solutions that you're told won't work. Once they've siphoned enough of your energy through their whining and you've offered multiple solutions they may turn on you for trying to help. All in all Taras just want to have a problem, and to torture you as they themselves feel tortured. Once they've finished drinking you often leave feeling frustrated, annoyed, pessimistic and like punching a wall.
The Sookie (The Needy Diva)
Sookies is a recognizable vampire sub-species (although I'm well aware that in the show she's a fairy, but bear with me). These creatures often need some form of rescuing...all the time. They may protest that they don't need your help but find themselves in a variety of situations that require saving. Some Sookies suck through rattling off a revolving list of "needs" they aren't getting from you or someone else. Others are more prideful and instead of asking for your help they offer theirs in a tricky act of projection. Sookies have no qualms running people ragged to get their needs met due to a sense of entitlement. Their superpower is guilt induction. You may leave their presence feeling drained, used, and like an overall sh*tty person for not more adequately monitoring their needs. If they've helped you, you may get waves of feeling they will show up mysteriously to collect what's owed to them at the worst possible time.
The Lafayette (The Mysterious Curmudgeon)
Okay so technically Lafayette is a witch but Lafayettes take pride in their independence and mysteriousness. Interactions with them feel like a constant struggle to get close to them and "figure them out". They project an aloofness that draws you closer and leaves you wanting more. Their feeding method is quite cunning: by causing you to put out more output in the interaction they siphon the energy of your effort for their own sustenance. You just can't seem to get to know them, but are sure that there is more to discover. You may be horrified that sometimes they're downright mean to you, but you keep going back for more. Efforts to get close are often rebuffed by a sly act of disappearance and suddenly you cannot reach them as they retreat to savor what they've taken. You may leave their presence feeling needy, frustrated and intrigued.