There are those moments in our lives when we are waiting for something we feel is very important: a returned message from a desired friend or partner, an affirmation, some good news, an "I love you", a promise, etc. These moments define the human experience because they all trigger the human faculty for hope. Hope is what impels us to keep moving. Hope can be the only thing we have in the midst of an uncertain world. But reliance on hope without the energy of faith can be terrifying and trigger some of our deepest and most fundamental existential fears.
For some hope can feel downright dangerous. Perhaps we've had lives where hope lead to disappointment. Perhaps hope has proven to be more harmful than cynicism, detachment or pessimism. When something has been so important to us and we dared to hope only to have our dreams and desires dashed in a moment, hope becomes like a cosmic joke rather than a cosmic hug.
For some those experiences can teach that hope is not to be trusted, that it is a fickle friend that ultimately leads to a harder fall and more pain. When the orientation to hope is thwarted it can deaden them to the joyful energy of hope in in favor of ego protection. I should know, I'm one of those people.
True Hope is nothing without faith. In fact, it is contingent upon faith and intention in order to manifest. Faith allows hope to remain pure from negative ego conditioning. Faith is like the battery charger behind hope that allows it to manifest beyond our wildest intentions. Here's the catch: we must trust that things unfold in exactly the way they're meant to. This is difficult when we have an idea of how situations should unfold.
This is exceedingly difficult because we want to mold, control, coerce and manipulate life to unfold according to our will. Sometimes that works, often times (and it always seems to be the times when the stakes seem the highest) our plans mean very little to the Universe's grand scheme, and we are at the mercy of "the way of it". True hope is a way to become friendly with the Suchness of life.
As someone who has trouble hoping, particularly in those moments when a particular outcome is greatly desired, trusting in hope can feel incredibly dangerous. My life experiences reinforced to my ego that things don't work out. I realized some years ago that it was not my life that reinforced this negative evaluation but my thoughts about life. I realized that by shifting my focus from my natural "negative" expectation to a neutral one I allowed the Universe or God to work more freely.
When I'm waiting for something to unfold and I have an expectancy of how I want it to play out it is imperative that I return to a neutral balance. It's difficult for me to be "positive" when I have a lot at stake (I'm just not wired that way), but I have taught myself to be neutral because I've learned the principle of energy follows thought. It's pretty damn hard though, I'm not going to lie.
Through the cultivation of neutrality and faith I can allow hope back into my life as long as I remember that whatever is unfolding or will unfold can only enrich and enhance my experience and wisdom if integrated properly.
I hate waiting, and I hate waiting even more when it feels like the next turns of your life hinge on the outcome of something outside of your immediate control. Hope is a self-soothing tactic humans have employed to make it through times of uncertainty. True Hope infused with faith however is a form of meditation and prayer that allows the universe to work in tandem with the highest good. It allows us to get out of the way and let the Divine do what it's best at.
So as cliché as it sounds, we truly must dare to hope. Despondency is so much easier because it keeps us protected. It allows us to hide away from the pain of disappointment, rejection or grief and yes there are times when protecting ourselves in that way is necessary. But then there are those times when the courage to hope is vital to the evolution of your soul's journey. It is my sincere wish that you all can learn to surrender to hope.